In this special Guest Q&A EXTRA! My guest Megan Hale answers the question: “You’ve done a lot of work on addressing your Conditioning. What was the most difficult piece of that to work on?”
Her answer? Enoughness!
Megan's journey to understand and embrace her 'enough-ness' has been an enlightening voyage. By sharing her experiences, she hopes to help others break the shackles of societal expectations that often hold us back from appreciating our true worth.
You're listening to Stand Tall and Own it, the podcast for high performing female leaders who are ready to make an impact by discovering the safety that comes from understanding their own value and exercising their own authority. I'm your host, andrea Johnson, and I'm here to tell you it is time to just truly be you, my strong friend. It's time to Stand Tall and Own it. Hey, welcome to Stand Tall and Own it Extra. I'm your host, andrea Johnson, and I asked this week's guest, megan Hale, a specific question about some conditioning work that she's done. As you know, if you've listened to my podcast, you are always dealing with your ABCs, your assumptions, your beliefs and your conditioning, and because I have followed Megan for so many years, I am very familiar with a lot of the conditioning work that she has done. So I asked her what is the biggest or the most impactful piece of conditioning work that you've done, and her answer is so soothing and encouraging and I cannot wait for you to hear it.
Speaker 1:
Here is Megan's answer to the hardest or the most impactful piece of conditioning work she has done throughout her life. I hope you are encouraged by it, just like I was. All right, megan, you know that we're talking a lot to my audience about assumptions, belief and conditioning, and I have been following you for so many years and one of the things that really has impressed me is the amount of work that you personally have done in this area of addressing your own conditioning. I was wondering if, for our audience, you could maybe share the one piece of conditioning or the one topic that was either the most challenging or that you've worked on the most, like it had the most layers, and kind of a little bit of encouragement for it, because I know it's hard work right. So this is not a five minute answer, truly, but maybe a few tips of how you were courageous enough to do that and what's the biggest thing, yeah, I think that thing that's probably been the most impactful for me.
Speaker 2:
That has supported all of the other work that I've done on top of it really goes back to the enough-ness work, and that was probably the first really big set of work that I did of really understanding just all the stories I was carrying around what it means to be enough, what it means to be enough as a mother, as a partner, as an entrepreneur, as a woman.
Speaker 2:
We have so many layers that we have been handed down from not only like our family line, but also just from our macro culture as a whole, and so I think that we live in a society where capitalism is very a big part, has a big presence in our culture, and capitalism has a way of really encouraging us to pride our productivity over everything else, which, for women especially who love to please others and like to get a lot done, it can really lead us to a place of burnout one.
Speaker 2:
So it has some health concerns for us. But the thing about productivity is that there is always more to be done. So I have found it in my own journey that if we don't redefine what it means to be enough and have our own boundaries around what is enough for us as far as our contribution goes. It's really easy for us to find that sense of fulfillment when we have done enough, we have become enough, we have achieved enough, and so on, and so that work in particular has been foundational for all of the other work that I've done. Especially when we talk about money, conditioning right, because there's always more to be earned. And so if we're only measuring our sense of happiness, fulfillment, success or enoughness on something outside of ourselves, somebody else's benchmark, it's really, really difficult for us to arrive to that place where we are like, yes, I am finally enough.
Speaker 2:
So it's really important that we define that on our own terms.
Speaker 1:
Oh yeah, I love that and you know, if somebody wanted to go back and to kind of listen to your thoughts on ennoughness, was that the wild and holy piece that's actually the ennoughness revolution.
Speaker 2:
You left us a podcast before Wild and Holy Radio that really detailed all of the pieces of how do we really understand the stories that we've been carrying, the conditioning that we hold, and how do we start to divorce ourselves from some of those things that are really driving enoughness. And that podcast really explored what I call like the five Ps that prevent enoughness. So we have people pleasing we're trying to appease others and be who others want us to be. We have performing, which is where a lot of that high productivity comes in, or really driven to succeed, or highly ambitious, which is something that is so praised in our culture. Right, we have a double-edged sword. Of course.
Speaker 2:
We also have proving, where we're really trying to prove that we are worthy and that we are good enough to belong. We also have perfection and really trying to be like the most 100% perfect version of ourselves, which does not exist. And then the last one is putting off. We tend to procrastinate doing the things that really need to get done because of all of those other four Ps. Right, it all kind of intersects together, but that podcast really explores all of those things and how we really show up more bravely as to who we are.
Speaker 1:
Oh, this is fabulous. I mean, it's like a whole podcast in like two minutes, and so what I'll do is I'll link to that, because that podcast is out there, right? So absolutely, and so I'll link to that and people can find that. Thank you so much, of course.
